Intentions

Sometimes our best intentions to help other people are really just misguided ways in which to keep the attention off of ourselves. Especially those who would consider themselves people pleasers, we truly want to help others and sometimes go too far before we realize that our intentions are blinding us from helping ourselves.

We all have ways in which we prefer to distract ourselves from ‘the work’, and in this case the work being our lifelong work of becoming the best possible version of ourselves while on this earth plane, of becoming one with our Higher Self, and of embodying Love as the highest principle of energy we can reach.

Some may distract themselves with media and other modern technologies, or focusing on improving their physical or intellectual bodies, while others—like people pleasers—may distract themselves by always focusing on others. It can be rewarding to help others, to ‘fix problems’ of theirs, and to suggest ways in which they can reach their goals. We like getting rewarded for helping others, for being a savior of sorts, for pointing out ways in which all will be well when x,y,z is completed.

However, there is a tiny sliver of our ego that can get wrapped up in all of this helping, and when we feel frustrated by others’ inability to see what they are doing wrong, this tiny sliver of ego grows and grows and overtakes our good intentions and can lead to frustration and blaming.

When this happens, it is time to stop ‘helping’. This is road sign that says ‘Look Both Ways’ meaning look within yourself for what is driving the need to change others. It is a very difficult task and lots of people never do this, they just move on. To the next relationship, job, location or hobby.

Again, this is a very difficult activity.

Look both ways.

Look within your heart and your ego. Which part of you is leading?

Distractions are so easy to keep handy. They are the candy of our ego, the easy button, the blinders.

Attending to ourselves, doing the inner work that is not fun to look at, noticing our patterns when things get difficult, is hard.

Start small. Sit with yourself for one minute and see what arises. There are many ways and practices to be still and hear what needs to change within ourselves when we listen. Choose the one that suits you best.

Loving acceptance is always waiting for you to arrive.